Obedience to the husband

Rights of a Muslim Wife upon Her Husband

Marriage is a natural necessity for every human being. A person who is not married resembles a bird without a nest. Marriage serves as a shelter for anyone who feels lost in the wilderness of life; one can find a partner in life who would share one’s joy and sorrow. To be a successful Muslim wife, show your husband love, respect, and affection, and ask that they treat you in the same way. Share responsibility for your daily life, and enjoy one another’s company. Together you can strengthen each other’s faith and live a pious and loving life. Allah says:

وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ

“And marry the single among you and the righteous among your male slaves and your female slaves. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty. And Allah (is) All-Encompassing, All-Knowing.” (Surah An-Nur 24:32)

The natural sexual desire is both strong and significant. Everyone should have a partner for satisfying their sexual needs in a secure and serene environment. Everyone should enjoy sexual satisfaction in a correct and proper manner. Those who abstain from marriage often suffer from both physical and psychological disorders. Such disorders and certain social problems are a direct consequence of the abstinence of youth from marriage. Allah says:

وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِنْ شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ وَلَئِنْ كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِي لَشَدِيدٌ

“And when your Lord made it known: If you are grateful would certainly give to you more, and if you are ungrateful, My chastisement is fully severe.” (Surah Ibrahim 14:7)

The wife must have a gentle attitude to the husband, it means that the wife is meant to be pleasant, smiling face, open-minded and courteous to her husband even though her husband is getting angry. A gentle attitude is a big role in correcting the wrong husband’s behaviour. Build trust in the marriage by sharing your thoughts and feelings freely to say to the husband. Ask the opinion of the husband. The relationship will grow in strength and health if you are honest with each other. The wife should communicate her expectations to the husband. Allah says:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اجْتَنِبُوا كَثِيرًا مِنَ الظَّنِّ إِنَّ بَعْضَ الظَّنِّ إِثْمٌ ۖ

“O you who believe! avoid most of suspicion, for sure suspicion in some cases, is a sin….” (Quran 49:12)

Marriage is “half our deen” and now that there is this one man in your life, this is your chance to make it everything you’ve ever dreamed of.  And one fun thing a Muslim Wife can do is simply dress up and smell good. It is the primary point of the duties of a woman since from the marriage time. Allah says:

“Wives have the same rights as the husbands have on them in accordance with the generally known principles. And men are a degree above them; and above all is Allah, the All-Mighty, All-Wise.” (Surah Baqarah Chapter 2, verse 228)

A woman should obey what her husband orders as long as not contrary to the Shariah (such as not wearing a hijab or not doing obligatory prayer). She should do this and not complain about her husband to her parents and stand behind the doors. The prophet (PBUH) once said:

“The prayer of two people hardly above their heads is the runaway slave and disobedience wife.”

The wife is the person most responsible for straightening the husband’s behaviour that is not in line with Islamic Shari’a. The wife must follow the place provided by her husband. Unless, the environment in which it turns out to damage the morals or unsafe both in terms of building and physical safety, then the wife has the right to refuse.

What are the duties of a Muslim woman toward her husband?

  1. A wife asks permission from the husband when a wife goes out
  2. A wife accompanying the husband having meal until the finish
  3. A wife should not complain about her husband to her parents
  4. A wife helps to establish the spiritual life of the husband
  5. A wife always thanks her husband for whatever he gives
  6. A wife protecting her husband’s property in his absence
  7. A wife standing behind the doors of their relationship
  8. A wife following the husband’s wherever he Stays
  9. A wife not destroying for her husband leadership
  10. A wife is ready to meet her husband’s needs
  11. A wife always look gently at the husband
  12. A wife be alive and excited about life
  13. A wife dress up to excite a husband
  14. A wife be open with your husband
  15. A wife showing the appreciation
  16. A wife taking Care of husband
  17. A wife be not the abusive jealousy
  18. A wife loving to her with your tongue
  19. A wife always obedience to the husband
  20. A wife asks forgiveness from her husband
  21. A wife to be kind to her and not to harm her
  22. A Wife should be a pleasure to her husband
  23. A wife is engaged in the education of children
  24. A wife share responsibilities around the house
  25. A wife be ready to meet the needs of her husband
  26. A wife asks the husband for spending the time together
  27. A wife should not go without permission from her husband
  28. A wife puts husband’s interest above her own parents’ interests
  29. A wife not allowing people to enter the house except the husband permit
  30. A wife spending for charity from the husband’s property with his permission

Taking the husband’s property is often done by the wife for a variety of reasons, such as not having enough money. Such reason is confirmed by Rasulullah SAW as long to fulfil the household expenses and not for other purposes. The wife should not take the property of her husband without permission, except to cover reasonable expenses.

“A woman is responsible for her husband’s home. She will be asked about it.” (Bukhari)

The heart of a human being thrives on it. A person who is not loved by anyone regards himself as alone and deserted. If love is mutual, the marital foundation becomes strong and the dangers of separation are averted. Lasting love is through kindness and permanent affection in the form of a very close friendship. Allah says:

وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُمْ مِنْ أَنْفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا 

“And among His signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves…” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:21)

A wife should honour the parents of the husband as she honours her own parents. Be grateful because they actually raised your husband until adulthood. A woman should do a domestic job such as washing, or cleaning the house. Do not proudly think that your husband fell in love with you at first sight, because such love is not lasting. The wife must not talk about the secret side of her husband to other people, as well as be forbidden to disclose the intimate between the two couples. Allah says:

وَآتُوا النِّسَاءَ صَدُقَاتِهِنَّ نِحْلَةً فَإِن طِبْنَ لَكُمْ عَن شَيْءٍ مِّنْهُ نَفْسًا فَكُلُوهُ هَنِيئًا مَّرِيئًا

And give the women their dower graciously. But if they remit to you anything of it (on there) own, then eat it (in) satisfaction (and) ease.” (Surah an-Nisa 4:4)

No need to complain about whatever the husband gives to the wife. If a woman always says thanks to her husband even it is only a small given then the husband will be pleased to do it more often. No need to compare to other husbands or other men for example, because everyone is not so perfect. She is not allowed to give something to somebody else without his husband’s permission. It is only permitted to give any little to other people when the husband allows the wife to do it. As the Messenger of Allah said:

“The lowest before God on Judgment Day, will be a man, would be alone with his wife, and a woman would be alone with her husband, and telling secrets to each other” (Muslim)

The task of a wife is to maintain and take care of a husband. It is not an easy undertaking. Those women, who are unaware of this feature of their role, may find difficulty in fulfilling the task. It is a job for the woman who is aware that the job requires a degree of sagacity, style, and ingenuity. For a woman to be a successful wife, she should win over her husband’s heart and be a source of comfort to him. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. Allah says:

الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَىٰ بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا أَنْفَقُوا مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ ۚ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ

“Men are the maintainers of women because Allah has made some of them excel others and because they spend out of their money; the good women are therefore obedient… .” (Surah An-Nisa 4:34)

Always showing the gratitude of the wife for everything the husband does for her. When the husband accomplishes something he is proud of, congratulate him and tell him that he made you as a wife proud. Affirm their feelings by leaving them love notes and thank-you notes. A good of having fun together build a happy partnership. Find what the couple both like such as going on a trip together, watching movies, games, or adventure with the husband. The wife can set the romantic dinner along with candlelight and rose to spark the love again.