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Spiritual Ways to Love in Islam

Allah never forbids love. Love is a feeling that is already natural to every human being. However, human beings are commanded to keep that love not necessarily plunge it into action that is forbidden by Him. Love must be the medium to draw near to Him. Of course, you want someone to love you as a human and will take care of you. You can’t be alone and want to do something to make someone love you so you can have a place to live with people that love you and get a happy life. Allah says:

قُلِ اللَّهُمَّ مَالِكِ الْمُلْكِ تُؤْتِي الْمُلْكَ مَن تَشَآءُ وَتَنزِعُ الْمُلْكَ مِمَّن تَشَآءُ وَتُعِزُّ مَن تَشَآءُ وَتُذِلُّ مَن تَشَآءُ بِيَدِكَ الْخَيْرُ إِنَّكَ عَلَى كُلِّ شَيْءٍ قَدِيرٌ

“Say: “O Allah, Lord of all dominion! You bestow dominion on whomever You please and take away dominion from whomever You please, and You exalt whom You please, and abase whom You please. In Your Hand is all good. Surely You are All-Powerful.” (Surah Al Imran: 3:26)

The nature of empathy is the ability of a person to share feel and understand what is felt and thought of others. Knowing their way of thinking and providing solutions for her if she needs will make her love you. It is because the real solution or advice you give to her is one of the signs that you empathize and care about her. Prophet SAW advised His people to always advise each other, even saying that religion is advice. Allah says:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَوْفُوا بِالْعُقُودِ أُحِلَّتْ لَكُم بَهِيمَةُ الْأَنْعَامِ إِلَّا مَا يُتْلَىٰ عَلَيْكُمْ غَيْرَ مُحِلِّي الصَّيْدِ وَأَنتُمْ حُرُمٌ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَحْكُمُ مَا يُرِيدُ

“O you who believe! Fulfil the contracts. Are made lawful for you the quadruped (of) the grazing livestock except what is recited on you, not being permitted (to) hunt while you (are in) Ihram. Indeed, Allah decrees what He wills.” (Surah Al-Maidah 5:1)

People will love someone who improves himself and always tries to become a better human. You must improve yourself and do self-introspection whenever you have a problem and not blame others for your fault. This will make someone love you more because of your good personality. Allah says:

الَّذِينَ يَجْتَنِبُونَ كَبَائِرَ الْإِثْمِ وَالْفَوَاحِشَ إِلَّا اللَّمَمَ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ وَاسِعُ الْمَغْفِرَةِ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِكُمْ إِذْ أَنشَأَكُم مِّنَ الْأَرْضِ وَإِذْ أَنتُمْ أَجِنَّةٌ فِي بُطُونِ أُمَّهَاتِكُمْ فَلَا تُزَكُّوا أَنفُسَكُمْ هُوَ أَعْلَمُ بِمَنِ اتَّقَىٰ

“Those who avoid great sins and the immoralities except the small faults; indeed, your Lord (is) vast (in) forgiveness. He (is) most knowing about you when He produced you from the earth and when you (were) fetuses in (the) wombs (of) your mothers. So (do) not ascribe purity (to) yourselves. He knows best (he) who fears.” (Surah An-Najm 53:32)

In Islam, you have never been taught the use of black magic or science that can publish an aura to influence others or invite the attention of others. However, you are motivated to be Allah’s devout servant to seek Allah’s approval. If Allah has approved your goodness, then Allah will love you. Then Allah will make people easily love you. Allah says:

قُلْ أَطِيعُوا اللَّهَ وَالرَّسُولَ فَإِن تَوَلَّوْا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ الْكَافِرِينَ

“Obey Allah and the Messenger But if they turn away, then Allah does not have a hub for those who disbelieve.” (Surah Al-Imran 3:32)

By smiling at people you meet, it shows that you are happy to meet her. A sincere smile means that you’re happy. This smile is one form of positive emotion that we can transmit to others. This pleasant condition allows us to interact better. She will begin taking an interest to talk with you and can make her love you when talking together and becoming closer in the future. Allah says:

مَّا يَفْعَلُ اللَّهُ بِعَذَابِكُمْ إِن شَكَرْتُمْ وَآمَنتُمْ وَكَانَ اللَّهُ شَاكِرًا عَلِيمًا

“What would Allah do by punishing you if you are grateful and you believe? And Allah is All-Appreciative, All-Knowing.” (Surah An-Nisa` 4:147)

Greeting someone will make her know that you care and remember her. Of course, every person wants to be remembered and cared for by her friends. By greeting her every day, you can also make her know and love you more. In Islam, the greeting is worship so we can get rewards too by doing it.

“Not going to heaven until you have faith. And you are not said to believe that you love each other. Will I show you something that if done will make you love each other? Spread the greetings among you.” ( Muslim no.54)

You must believe in Allah that you will get someone that will love you. Allah can arrange everything including meeting someone that will be your future companion. Allah can make her love you even though you meet her in an accident or for the first time.

Here is presented how to make someone love you in Islam:

  1. Give empathy and help someone
  2. Make her look important to you
  3. Look confident and energetic
  4. Maintain a neat appearance
  5. Give a present or surprise
  6. Spend some time with her
  7. Become a good listener
  8. Never abandon her
  9. Pray and ask Allah
  10. Love Allah
  11. Believe in Allah
  12. Give her a praise
  13. Always smile at everyone
  14. Seek the pleasure of Allah
  15. Always keep your promise
  16. Greet when you meet someone
  17. Improve self and self-introspection
  18. Talk and be open-minded to someone
  19. Make her laugh and be comfortable with you
  20. Become a gentle person and can control emotion

You must always pray and ask Allah to get someone that truly loves you and never leaves you alone. Also, your love is not prohibited by Allah and does not make you become far from Allah. Instead, you will love her and Allah more.

“O Allah, I plead Your love, love from your loving people, and love the charity that can lead me to love You.” (Turmudzi 3543)

Appearance is the barometer of someone’s heart. The first one your friends see is your appearance so you need to look attractive and neat then they will love you eventually. If your heart is faithful to the teachings of Islam, then your behaviour also reflects a believing Muslim. Then, if your heart is in love with the Prophet Muhammad, your lifestyle follows His guidance. The prophet always maintains His appearance when meeting with His friends and family.

“Allah is beautiful and pleased with beauty. If anyone of you (intends) to meet his friends, he should tidy himself.“ (Muslim)

Someone will love a person who is gentle and can control his emotion. You must become this type of person because it is good so you will not do violent acts that can make people hate you. A woman also loves someone gentle and care about her.

“Do it gently and keep away from your enmity and vile acts it is not gentle input in a case but he will decorate it, and not in the gentle pull of a case but will make ugly.” (Muslim)

Loving Allah is the key to geting love from someone. Allah has already told that someone who loves Him so much and always remember Him will get the love from the people around him. People will see the sincerity of your love and won’t think twice to love you because they have seen your love to Allah. Allah is loving, compassionate, and gives people hope. He is not a God who is out to punish.