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How to Choose a Husband

Marriage is part of faith and it is part of the Sunnah of the Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him.“Marriage is a commitment and relationship that starts in this Dunya (world) and will continue Insha Allah in Paradise together,”.Every woman must have a wish to get a kind husband for her World and her Hereafter. It is very normal because marriage is lifetime worship. Allah says:

قُل لِّلْمُؤْمِنِينَ يَغُضُّوا مِنْ أَبْصَارِهِمْ وَيَحْفَظُوا فُرُوجَهُمْ ذَٰلِكَ أَزْكَىٰ لَهُمْ إِنَّ اللَّهَ خَبِيرٌ بِمَا يَصْنَعُونَ

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Lo! Allah is aware of what they do.” (Surah An-Nur 24:30)

It is stressed in the religion of Islam that one should choose her/his spouse from a decent and noble family. Family nobility does not mean fame, wealth, or social status; rather it means modesty, chastity, purity, and religiousness, which will be all passed on to the next generations. Allah says:

وَأَنكِحُوا الْأَيَامَىٰ مِنكُمْ وَالصَّالِحِينَ مِنْ عِبَادِكُمْ وَإِمَائِكُمْ إِن يَكُونُوا فُقَرَاءَ يُغْنِهِمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ وَاللَّهُ وَاسِعٌ عَلِيمٌ

 “And marry the single among you and the righteous among your male slaves and your female slaves. If they are poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty. And Allah (is) All-Encompassing, All-Knowing.” (Surah An-Nur 24:32)

Ways on How to Choose a Husband for life:

  1. Make the sure type of value to keep in mind is a lifestyle
  2. Make sure to look for someone who is kind and loving
  3. Make sure significant problems before tying the knot
  4. Make sure and meet each other’s family clearance
  5. Make sure goals before considering marriage
  6. Make sure to find someone you can talk to
  7. Make sure to have a gentle personality
  8. Make sure for long-term compatibility
  9. Make sure not to rush into marriage
  10. Make sure has the heart of a leader
  11. Make sure he is from a good family
  12. Make sure having faith and piety
  13. Make sure your values match
  14. Make sure you are able to go out
  15. Make sure the nobility of the family
  16. Make sure to be responsible and fair
  17. Make sure how he feels about children
  18. Make sure you can entertain each other
  19. Make sure someone who makes you laugh
  20. Make sure you have the basics in common
  21. Make sure that you have enough differences
  22. Make sure you have similar goals about how your life
  23. Make sure you know his personality and temperament
  24. Make sure a crucial aspect of a healthy, lasting relationship
  25. Make sure to be a good, match when things get more serious

وَلَا تَنكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكَاتِ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنَّ وَلَأَمَةٌ مُّؤْمِنَةٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكَةٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَتْكُمْ وَلَا تُنكِحُوا الْمُشْرِكِينَ حَتَّىٰ يُؤْمِنُوا وَلَعَبْدٌ مُّؤْمِنٌ خَيْرٌ مِّن مُّشْرِكٍ وَلَوْ أَعْجَبَكُمْ أُولَٰئِكَ يَدْعُونَ إِلَى النَّارِ وَاللَّهُ يَدْعُو إِلَى الْجَنَّةِ وَالْمَغْفِرَةِ بِإِذْنِهِ وَيُبَيِّنُ آيَاتِهِ لِلنَّاسِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَتَذَكَّرُونَ

“And (do) not [you] marry [the] polytheistic women until they believe. And a bondwoman (who is) believing (is) better than a polytheistic woman [and] even if she pleases you. And (do) not give in marriage (your women) (to) [the] polytheistic men until they believe, and a bondman (who is) believing (is) better than a polytheistic man [and] even if he pleases you. [Those] they invite to the Fire, and Allah invites to Paradise and [the] forgiveness by His permission. And He makes clear His Verses for the people so that they may take heed.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:221)

Islam also lays special emphasis on compatibility in marriage. They should be equal and close to one another in terms of religiosity and morality, as well as social, financial and also physical aspects. Allah has promised to fulfil the other needs of the married couple Himself. Allah says:

وَلَا تَأْكُلُوا أَمْوَالَكُم بَيْنَكُم بِالْبَاطِلِ وَتُدْلُوا بِهَا إِلَى الْحُكَّامِ لِتَأْكُلُوا فَرِيقًا مِّنْ أَمْوَالِ النَّاسِ بِالْإِثْمِ وَأَنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ

“And (do) not eat your properties among yourselves wrongfully and present [with] it to the authorities so that you may eat a portion from (the) wealth (of) the people sinfully while you know.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:188)

Marriage is a natural necessity for every human being and several good outcomes such as procreation, sexual satisfaction, peace of mind, etc. are considered as the purposes of marriage. However, these could not be the ultimate goal of marriage in Islam as the non-Muslims can also achieve these, perhaps in better ways.