Good manners increase faith

Respect and Manners in Islam

Respect is defined as a positive feeling towards people. One should be respectful to everybody. All of us live in a world that is filled with conflict. Worldviews and opinions like and dislikes, all vary with the number of people on this planet. The vast majority of us like to believe we’re open-minded toward individuals who see the world uniquely in contrast to how we do. We know it’s essential to show respect to people around us, and we truly attempt. Alla says:

إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَأْمُرُكُمْ أَن تُؤَدُّوا الْأَمَانَاتِ إِلَىٰ أَهْلِهَا وَإِذَا حَكَمْتُم بَيْنَ النَّاسِ أَن تَحْكُمُوا بِالْعَدْلِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ نِعِمَّا يَعِظُكُم بِهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ سَمِيعًا بَصِيرًا

“Indeed, Allah commands you to render trusts to whom they are due and when you judge between people to judge with justice. Excellent is that which Allah instructs you. Indeed, Allah is ever Hearing and Seeing.” (Surah An-Nisa, 4: 58)

Islam places great emphasis on manners and on the proper way to deal with others, regardless of age, sex, colour, religion or creed. Respect is a great assistance for removing workplace conflict, stress, and problems. Regarding yourself implies giving and characterizing your value and incentive as a person. Respect is a way you view that word really impacts the extent to which you use it in your everyday life. Being respected by important people in our lives growing up teaches us how to be respectful toward others.  Alla says:

وَعِبَادُ ٱلرَّحْمَـٰنِ ٱلَّذِينَ يَمْشُونَ عَلَىٰ ٱلأَرْضِ هَوْناً وَإِذَا خَاطَبَهُمُ الجَاهِلُونَ قَالُواْ سَلاَماً

“And the servants of the Most Merciful are those who walk upon the earth easily, and when the ignorant address them [harshly], they say [words of] peace.” (Surah Al-Furqan 25:63)

Good manners mean carrying out positive tasks with courtesy. It can consist of the practice to revive broken relationships to stop two people from fighting. Good manners are about respecting parents, elders, neighbours, spouses, non-muslims and everyone we meet in our daily lives. To have peace in the world, people must be kind to each other. You can show kindness and show people that you are always obliged to have them. The Prophet (PBUH) is a great source of inspiration for us in this matter.

Here are some ways to be respectful and know what to do when somebody isn’t respectful toward you:

  1. Respect is the glue that holds your relationships together
  2. Respect helps us to feel safe and to express ourselves
  3. Respect is a quality most of us try to have in our lives
  4. Respect is one of the greatest expressions of love
  5. Respect is a great habit and appropriate conduct
  6. Respect conveys a sense of admiration for good
  7. Respect is shown towards someone important
  8. Respect have significant goals and strategies
  9. Respect is basic to have a sense of security
  10. Respect is you should feel your best
  11. Respect figuring out your behaviour
  12. Respect held in high esteem or regard
  13. Respect is a belief that is major to dignity
  14. Respect knowing and practising great habits
  15. Respect yourself and others will respect you
  16. Respect is to have the option to communicate
  17. Respect allows you to maintain a healthy work
  18. Respect unafraid of being judged, embarrassed
  19. Respect understanding the value of good manners
  20. Respect is a general assessment you give somebody
  21. Respect legitimate conduct will cause you to feel great
  22. Respect headed to building up a solid degree of dignity

“The most beloved of Allah’s servants to Allah are those with the best manners.” (Al-Bukhari)

Islam maintaining good dealings with others should be the main priority of all practising. It is our religious and moral duty as well to be good-mannered towards other people of society regardless of race and religion. We need to ask ourselves on a daily basis ‘Am I the best possible person that I could be?’. The answer will be No as there is always room for improvement. The most perfect of Allah’s creation was the Prophet (PBUH) and we should try to adopt his teachings and the good manner in our lives. Allah says:

قَدْ أَفْلَحَ ٱلْمُؤْمِنُونَ * ٱلَّذِينَ هُمْ فِي صَلاَتِهِمْ خَاشِعُونَ * وَٱلَّذِينَ هُمْ عَنِ ٱللَّغْوِ مُّعْرِضُونَ

“The believers must (eventually) win through, Those who humble themselves in their prayers, Who avoid vain talk.” (Surah Al-Muminun 23:1-3)

Good conduct and a sense of morality can prevent us from falling into sins. In short, good manners are an important element in order to fulfil our faith and to get by in our social life. It is very important to have good manners to have a sense of morality as well. Avoiding criticism shows the good manners of a man. We should turn to Allah and ask him to give us the ability to have good manners like the Prophet (PBUH). Allah says:

فَاصبِر إِنَّ وَعدَ اللَّهِ حَقٌّ ۖ وَلا يَستَخِفَّنَّكَ الَّذينَ لا يوقِنونَ

“So be patient! Allah’s promise is indeed true. And do not let yourself be upset by those who have no conviction.” (Surah Ar-Rum 30:60)

Good manners play an important role in Islam. Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing. Respect doesn’t have to come naturally – it is something you learn. When you give and show respect to yourself and other people, you automatically feel it reflecting in your life. Showing and practising respect for yourself and other people allows you to have better connections as well.

Islam places great emphasis on manners and on the proper way to deal with others:

  • Should always treat everyone with great respect and manners
  • Should greatly respect Parents and follow their orders
  • Should greatly respect Islamic teachers and scholars
  • Should respect Islamic Books and Literature too
  • Should greatly respect the direction of Qibla
  • Should pray five times a day, on time
  • Should be respected all Prophets
  • Should recite Quran everyday
  • Should eat only Halal and clean food
  • Should always respect elderly people and
  • Should avoid lies, backbiting and tale-bearing
  • Should recite Dua or Dorood Sharif during Wazoo
  • Should be connected to Azan with great concentration
  • Should avoid every bad conversation and every bad habit

‘’ Nothing is weightier on the scale of deeds than one’s good manners.” (Sahih Bukhari)

Good manners apply to everyone because they cover areas of universal understanding. They must remain with us and forever shall remain so, as they apply to all social conduct, in all areas of society. It is impossible to practice Islam if we neglect the importance of good manners. By implementing good manners we are actually reinforcing our faith. It is not only Allah’s Love that you gain but also the love and respect of those around you. None could deny his noble character and good manners.

The Importance of Good Manners in Islam:

  • Good manners show kindness to their neighbours
  • Good manners belong to avoid bad conversation
  • Good morals are considered the foundation
  • Good manners follow Islamic teaching
  • Good manners make close to Allah
  • Good manners increase faith
  • Good manners follow Islamic law
  • Good manners lead man to Paradise
  • Good morals cause strength to Muslims
  • Good manners surely indicate the goodness

Good manners consist of spreading words of peace and mending broken relationships between people. Good manners are about respecting your parents, elders and neighbours and showing love and compassion to the young. It also includes visiting the sick and abstaining from evils such as backbiting and slandering. We must learn to pass on good manners and the very best of manners to our family and friends.

Allah Almighty says in The Holy Quran:

  • “Don’t claim yourselves to be pure.” (Quran 53:32)
  • “Return a greeting in a better manner.” (Quran 4:86)
  • “Lower your voice and talk moderately.” (Quran 31:19)
  • “Those who are constant at their prayer.” (Quran 70:23)
  • “And those who keep a guard on their prayer.” (Quran 70:34)
  • “And indeed, you are of a great moral character.” (Quran, 68:4)
  • “Surely, you (Prophet Muhammad) are of great morality.” (Al-Qalam 68:4)
  • “Say not even a word to them in contempt and don’t repel them.” (Al Quran 17:23)

Manners are a way of doing something or way of behaviour, etiquette or it could be a person’s outward way of behaving toward others. Conducting good manners is not easy because it takes time. The virtues of good manners are seen in various other hadiths which points to the good character that is pleasing to Allah Almighty and His Messenger Prophet Muhammad (SAW). There is no one in a good manner than our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW).  Allah says:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا اتَّقُوا اللَّهَ وَكُونُوا مَعَ الصَّادِقِينَ

“O you, who have believed, fear Allah and be with those who are true.” (Surah At-Tawbah, 9: 119)

Islam, advising and calling each other to do good and to stop that which is evil. We should try to teach the younger ones good manners. Human nature desires a society based on morals and manners which provides a stable and secure life leading to liberty and happiness for all people. The best way to teach is to first practice it ourselves. Allah says:

وَالَّذِينَ لَا يَشْهَدُونَ الزُّورَ وَإِذَا مَرُّوا بِاللَّغْوِ مَرُّوا كِرَامًا

“And those who (do) not bear witness (to) the falsehood, and when they pass by futility, they pass (as) dignified ones.” (Surah Al-Furqan 25:72)

Islam is a beautiful religion, full of wisdom and harmony. Manners and civility are very important in Islam. A good Muslim can never be a person with poor manners. We must be always thankful for what Allah has given to us, for everything that exists in the universe belongs to him. May Allah Almighty give us the strength to improve our manners and try to imitate them! Ameen