Parents education has big impact to their children

Girls’ Education as Right in Islam

There is no doubt that Islam holds education in a high esteem position. It is universally acknowledged that education is an important aspect of life, for both genders, from all walks of life. In developing countries though, where many communities consider boys to be superior, it could be far more beneficial to educate girls if given a choice between the two. Education is one of the most important obligations vested in humankind. The quest for education is one of the cardinal principles of Islam, on which serious emphasis is laid. Allah says:

وَإِذْ تَأَذَّنَ رَبُّكُمْ لَئِن شَكَرْتُمْ لَأَزِيدَنَّكُمْ وَلَئِن كَفَرْتُمْ إِنَّ عَذَابِي لَشَدِيدٌ

“And when proclaimed your Lord, “If you are thankful, surely I will increase you; but if you are ungrateful indeed, My punishment (is) surely severe.” (Surah Ibrahim 14:7)

Children become the highest responsible because we must teach them to be able to continue the Islam vision. In Islam, a child is assumed as a pleasure and fortune or it is also can be a kind of test as if as our wealth to measure our God-fearing to Allah SWT whether we love Allah SWT or the world only. Allah says:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا لَا تُلْهِكُمْ أَمْوَالُكُمْ وَلَا أَوْلَادُكُمْ عَن ذِكْرِ اللَّهِ وَمَن يَفْعَلْ ذَٰلِكَ فَأُولَٰئِكَ هُمُ الْخَاسِرُونَ

:O you who believe! (Let) not divert you your wealth and not your children from (the) remembrance (of) Allah. And whoever does that, then those [they] (are) the losers.” (Surah Al-Munafiqun 63:9 )

Female education does have precedence in Islamic history. At the same time, there were also religious and cultural forces that tried to impede it. While it is largely irrelevant today (as female education is a success across much of the Muslim world), without understanding the past, not only do we do a disservice to history, and those who suffered from misogyny. Allah says:

لَقَدْ خَلَقْنَا الْإِنسَانَ فِي أَحْسَنِ تَقْوِيمٍ

“Indeed, We created man in (the) best mould.” (Surah At-Tin 95:4)

Today, it becomes a special challenge to educate female children due to the existence of social media and the change of social life in society. As parents, we are demanding to solve all problems in creativity and restful to encounter the problems that arise. It is not a wise way to restrain or strain our daughter to fulfil our demands. Women in the future have responsible and act as a wife in her family. Allah says:

وَمَا كَانَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ لِيَنفِرُوا كَافَّةً فَلَوْلَا نَفَرَ مِن كُلِّ فِرْقَةٍ مِّنْهُمْ طَائِفَةٌ لِّيَتَفَقَّهُوا فِي الدِّينِ وَلِيُنذِرُوا قَوْمَهُمْ إِذَا رَجَعُوا إِلَيْهِمْ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَحْذَرُونَ

“Nor should the Believers all go forth together: if a contingent from every expedition remained behind, they could devote themselves to studies in religion, and admonish the people when they return to them, -that thus they (may learn) to guard themselves (against evil).” (Surah At-Taubah 9:122)

Women are also being a mother in their families and the method of education from their parents will give an impact on them in the future. Therefore, parents should give good deeds to their daughters so they can adjust it when they are already being a mother. The purpose is to avoid women failing in performing their function as it being educated by their parents in their childhood to build a happy family in Islam. Allah says:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا إِنَّمَا الْمُشْرِكُونَ نَجَسٌ فَلَا يَقْرَبُوا الْمَسْجِدَ الْحَرَامَ بَعْدَ عَامِهِمْ هَٰذَا وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ عَيْلَةً فَسَوْفَ يُغْنِيكُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ إِن شَاءَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ عَلِيمٌ حَكِيمٌ

“O you who believe! Indeed, the polytheists (are) unclean, so let them not come near Al-Masjid Al-Haraam after this, their (final) year. And if you fear poverty, then soon Allah will enrich you from His Bounty, if He wills. Indeed, Allah (is) All-Knower, All-Wise.” (Surah At-Taubah 9:28)

Parents education has a big impact on their children, especially daughters. When women grow up, they have an obligation and responsibility for teaching and raising their children, influencing them to have good attitudes as in Islam since it will embed in their subconscious childhood.

إِذَا أَدَّبَ الرَّجُلُ أَمَتَهُ فَأَحْسَنَ تَأْدِيبَهَا وَعَلَّمَهَا فَأَحْسَنَ تَعْلِيمَهَا ثُمَّ أَعْتَقَهَا فَتَزَوَّجَهَا كَانَ لَهُ أَجْرَانِ

“If a man teaches his servant girl good manners, educates her in the best manner, then he emancipates her and marries her, he will have a double reward.” (Sahih Bukhari 3262)

Therefore, parents should guide their daughter with good and wide knowledge in educating their children to become sholehah wives and aware of having a good family. Any kind of women profession, a family woman and spouse has a responsibility to give happiness to their husband, family, and kind of sakinah frame.

Challenges and virtues to educate female children

  1. Teach women as a prospective mother in the family
  2. Educate women as housebuilders of Ummat
  3. A great reward from Allah SWT
  4. Prayer from Pious Children
  5. Teach women as wives to husbands
  6. An educated girl is better informed 
  7. Teach women to be responsible for their selves
  8. Parents education has a big impact on their children
  9. Access to education can increase political awareness 
  10. Educated girls are far more likely to be aware of issues

Women will have responsibilities for their spouse and family and also give merit to their family with all their knowledge by doing multitasking.  It is parents obligation and awareness to educate their children of having the best skills in future including educating their children, taking care of the family as of their submission to Allah SWT. Religious values, divinity, and awareness of giving merit to others must be taught in their childhood because it will be difficult to apply them when they are already adults.

مَا أَشْكَلَ عَلَيْنَا أَصْحَابَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ حَدِيثٌ قَطُّ فَسَأَلْنَا عَائِشَةَ إِلَّا وَجَدْنَا عِنْدَهَا مِنْهُ عِلْمًا

“We never had a new problem occurred to us as the companions of the Messenger of Allah except that we would ask Aisha and find with her some knowledge concerning it.” (Sunan At-Tirmidhi 3883)

Education and knowledge are, by far, the most powerful weapons known to mankind. It is the parent role that must be able to manage their daughters not to fall into misguiding in Islam. Therefore, parents must always give good deeds and education to their children so their daughters have awareness of having to take care their selves and not fall into bad deeds both in the world and doomsday.

إِيْ وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لَقَدْ رَأَيْتُ مَشْيَخَةَ أَصْحَابِ مُحَمَّدٍ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ

“By the one in whose hand is my soul, I saw the learned elders among the companions of Muhammad ask her about the religious obligations.” (Musnad Ibn Abi Shayba 30387)

It is a fundamental factor in being able to make a valuable and substantial difference in the world. Knowledge gaining and application is a fundamental necessity for all Muslims to qualify them to believe according to the ideologies of the religion. Thus, by giving good knowledge and preparing those to act as a wife in her family is become parents’ obligation and responsible so they can be good wives to their husband.