Anger is like poison

Anger Management In Islam

Anger is a natural feeling experienced by every person. Although it is natural, anger can have serious consequences for us as well as the people around us. Anger is a destructive emotion, as a fire that destroys our well-being, consumes our good actions. This is a dangerous rough road and no one is devoid of it and it brings one close to the wrath of Allah. Allah says:

وَلَمَّا رَأَى الْمُؤْمِنُونَ الْأَحْزَابَ قَالُوا هَٰذَا مَا وَعَدَنَا اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ وَصَدَقَ اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ ۚ وَمَا زَادَهُمْ إِلَّا إِيمَانًا وَتَسْلِيمًا

“When the believers saw the companies, they said: This is what Allah and His Messenger had promised us, and Allah and His Messenger spoke the truth. And it only increased them in faith and acceptance.” (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:22)

Anger is one of several coarse qualities of the soul or heart, which have to be treated by Islam’s spiritual methods. The evil kind of anger can be overcome by understanding and following the respective teachings of Islam. That is why it is extremely important to stay calm and be quiet. Remember that the real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath or anger. The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said: “If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent.” Allah says:

أَفَمَنِ اتَّبَعَ رِضْوَانَ اللَّهِ كَمَن بَاءَ بِسَخَطٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَمَأْوَاهُ جَهَنَّمُ وَبِئْسَ الْمَصِيرُ

“So is (the one) who pursues (the) pleasure (of) Allah like (the one) who draws on (himself) wrath of Allah and his abode (is) hell, and wretched (is) the destination?” (Surah Al-Imran, 3:162)

Anger is a normal reaction and feeling, so you can’t make it go away.  If one of you got angry while standing then sit down, or if sitting down then lay down. We are convinced that Islamic guidance is the best because it relates to all levels of human beings. If you can react without hurting someone else, it can be good. It’s useful when we need to protect ourselves, and it can motivate us to change things. Allah says:

تَرَىٰ كَثِيرًا مِّنْهُمْ يَتَوَلَّوْنَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا لَبِئْسَ مَا قَدَّمَتْ لَهُمْ أَنفُسُهُمْ أَن سَخِطَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِمْ وَفِي الْعَذَابِ هُمْ خَالِدُونَ

“You see many of them taking as allies those who disbelieved. Surely evil (is) what sent forth for them their souls, that Allah became angry with them and in the punishment, they (will) abide forever.” (Surah Al-Maida, 5:80)

Anger is like poison. Within minutes it can destroy everything a man has built- marriages, brotherhood, and friendship. It can even lead to bloodshed. One should be conscious of these effects and be very careful with one’s choices when in a state of anger. The causes which cause anger to grow are self-conceit, self-praise, jests and ridicule, argument, treachery, too much greed for too much wealth and name and fame.

Here are some appropriate ways can help you handle Anger:

  1. Try to let that energy out in a safe and positive way
  2. Try to breathe deeply until the anger subsides
  3. Try to listen to that can build trusting feelings
  4. Try to work to lower frustration and anger
  5. Try to away feel as high energy as rage
  6. Try to relax and lower intensity anger
  7. Try to seek help with friends in anger
  8. Try to remember the promise of Allah
  9. Try to learn how to laugh at yourself
  10. Try to avoid to emotionally charged
  11. Try to involve in creative activities
  12. Try to gain a different perspective
  13. Try to get rid of a realistic option
  14. Try to gain a different perspective
  15. Try to avoid to emotionally charged
  16. Try to repeat a calm word or phrase
  17. Try to remember the effects of anger
  18. Try to seek help with friends in anger
  19. Try to relax and lower intensity anger
  20. Try to seek protection from Allah SWT
  21. Try to trust, it helps you hostile emotions
  22. Try to turn yourself into something beautiful
  23. Try to exercise, it is a way to improve your mood
  24. Try to relieve stress and live in a healthy moment
  25. Try to assert yourself, express your feelings calmly

Anger can destroy relationships, health, properties, and livelihood. This is because uncontrolled anger is from the Shaytan and he uses it to wreck lives. If these evils are united in a person, his conduct becomes bad and he cannot escape anger. The goal is to purify the heart, free it from the oblivion of the rank of human beings. Allah says:

وَلَمَّا سَكَتَ عَن مُّوسَى الْغَضَبُ أَخَذَ الْأَلْوَاحَ وَفِي نُسْخَتِهَا هُدًى وَرَحْمَةٌ لِّلَّذِينَ هُمْ لِرَبِّهِمْ يَرْهَبُونَ

“And when was calmed from Musa the anger, he took (up) the tablets and in their inscription (was) guidance and mercy for those who [they] (are) fearful of their Lord.” (Surah Al-Araf, 7:154)

Keep due distance from those ill-tempered people, regardless of the extent of their anger and the reason behind it. Don’t react in a manner that will signal hatred. Doing so will probably just exacerbate the anger and exasperate the situation remember Zun-nun when he departed in wrath: He imagined that We had no power over him! But he cried through the depths of darkness. Allah says:

إِنَّ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا يُنَادَوْنَ لَمَقْتُ اللَّهِ أَكْبَرُ مِن مَّقْتِكُمْ أَنفُسَكُمْ إِذْ تُدْعَوْنَ إِلَى الْإِيمَانِ فَتَكْفُرُونَ

“Indeed, those who disbelieved will be cried out to them, “Certainly Allah’s hatred (was) greater than your hatred (of) yourselves when you were called to the faith, and you disbelieved.” (Surah Ghafir, 40:10)

Anger has, therefore, to be controlled since it is within the scope of man’s willpower to do so. Failure to exercise this volitional power is contrary to human nature. Reverting the whole situation into a pleasant tone will help lessen tensions. On the other hand, harsh words trigger retaliation. Watch your words because they can set the tone for an entire situation. Allah says:

Allah Almighty says in The Holy Quran:

  • So He made their deeds of no effect.” (Surah Muhammad, 28)
  • “The way of those on whom Thou hast bestowed Thy Grace.” (Surah Al-Fatiha, 6)
  • “those whose (portion) is not wrath, and who go not astray.” (Surah Al-Fatiha, 7)
  • “There is no god but thou: glory to thee: I was indeed wrong!” (Surah Al-Anbiya, 87)
  • “The Wrath of Allah is on them: He has cursed them and got Hell ready for them: and evil is it for a destination.” (Surah Al-Fath, 6)
  • “Those who avoid the greater crimes and shameful deeds, and, when they are angry even then forgive.” (Surah Ash-Shura, 37)
  • They are neither of you nor of them, and they swear to falsehood knowingly.” (Surah Al-Mujadala, 14)

Emotions are temporary. Let yourself feel your emotions and they will pass. Managing anger requires paying attention to what you need, not ignoring the need or the feeling.  Recognizing the consequences of unexpressed anger can motivate to change it. Allah says:

وَإِمَّا يَنزَغَنَّكَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ نَزْغٌ فَاسْتَعِذْ بِاللَّهِ إِنَّهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ

“If an evil suggestion comes to you from Satan, then seek refuge in Allah. Verily, He is Hearing and Knowing.” (Surat al-A’raf 7:200)

Try to pinpoint the signs of anger early enough so you can express it without hurting yourself or the ones you love. You’ll be glad you did. Be strong and make your calm manner contain the situation. Be wise. Self-control is the cornerstone to curbing people’s anger. Allah says:

وَإِنِّي كُلَّمَا دَعَوْتُهُمْ لِتَغْفِرَ لَهُمْ جَعَلُوا أَصَابِعَهُمْ فِي آذَانِهِمْ وَاسْتَغْشَوْا ثِيَابَهُمْ وَأَصَرُّوا وَاسْتَكْبَرُوا اسْتِكْبَارًا

“And indeed, I every time, I invited them that You may forgive them, they put their fingers in their ears and covered themselves (with) their garments and persisted and were arrogant (with) pride.” (Surah Nuh 71:7)

Anger in itself arises involuntarily. It is automatically activated. But acting by its demand is voluntary. On a final note, keep in mind that anger and reacting to anger does not make you a strong man. We must, therefore, be very conscious of the plot of the devil, and control our anger. There is a better reward for this in this world, and in the hereafter, In sha Allah. May ALLAH  give everyone the ability to practice’s what we read and give everyone Jannat (paradise).

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