You live your life day to day. Your days are more or less the same. It’s not like you wake up and terrible things happen (although sometimes they do). You have slight annoyances, little moments where you sigh, and periods of daydreaming about a better future.“No big deal,” you tell yourself. After all, you have plenty of life to live, right? You can always change your situation. Over time, though, you’re overcome by the feeling of being stuck.
You may think that there is nothing substantial you can do. But you don’t need to. Small things become big things. Focus on small steps, they are wonderful events on their own, so enjoy them.Start right now, make a list of tiny ways you can get closer to your goal, then pick one and take it as soon as possible.
Changes can shake-up your patterns, create new energy and change your outlook on life. If you feel stuck, this simply means that something isn’t working for you anymore. Whether it’s your job, your relationship, your house, your circle of friends or your hobbies, if you are not excited about them anymore, it’s probably time to finally do something to change it.
This is your life.Genuinely ask yourself these questions and see where the answers take you.
- When is the last time you’ve gone outside of your comfort zone?
- What Will Staying in the Same Career Do to Your Life?
- Is Your Health Helping or Harming Your Purpose in Life?
- What would you be doing if you had six months to live?
- What will happen if you continue to live this way?
- What’s the first step you can take?
- Are you using your strengths?
- What are you so afraid of?
- What do you hate?
The thing with feeling stuck is that sometimes you don’t know what you need to get “unstuck” or what you want from life in general. But this “numbness” and “emptiness” that you’re feeling (temporarily!) should not stop you from making a change.Now, you may not actually see the opportunities that are coming your way. Those endings that make you sad and disappointed should be seen as new beginning. This is a new chapter in your life, your chance to change your life.
Things To Remember When You’re Feeling Stuck In Life
- Stop overthinking.
- Question your beliefs.
- Find your alternatives.
- Take disciplined action.
- Your best is yet to come.
- Identify the human factor.
- Invest in your self-awareness.
- Specify your desired outcome.
- Nothing changes if nothing changes.
- New beginnings can feel like endings.
- Even the tiniest possible step is progress.
- Highlight and categorize the obstacles to change.
- Take a step back and think about the bigger picture.
- Feeling stuck is a sign that it’s time to make a change.
- Believe what your heart tells you, not what others say.
- Spend time with yourself. Being alone isn’t a bad thing.
- You don’t have to have it all figured out to move forward.
- Beautiful things happen when you clear your life of all the negativity.
- Have fun and experiment. Discover what it is that YOU like and care about.
- If it’s meant to be, it will happen at the right time, at the right place, for the right reasons.
Who or what is stopping you from getting closer to your goal? Are your obstacles external or internal? Is it within your power to control or at least influence them, or is there nothing you can do about them? For example, a prenuptial agreement, a written document with a great binding power, is an obstacle that you can’t really change or influence, but fear of financial insecurity can be remedied by getting a job or downsizing.
Using this last step, you can set out knowing that you are aware of what you need to do. With this information you can also confidently construct a very clear plan to get you where you want to be. After all that preparation you have done in steps one through four, you are definitely ready to make a move toward your desired goal.
You know that your relationship is flawed if:
- You feel unhappy and worn out by your relationship
- You feel happier away from your partner
- You feel like you are talking to a wall
- Self-doubt & Insecurities
- You feel controlled or patronized
- You feel restrained or suffocated by your relationship
- You spend all your free time worrying about the relationship
- You have no voice, no opinion or rights
- You don’t feel valued or appreciated enough
- You always end up at fault in every situation
- You don’t seem to ever have time for your friends, family or—most importantly!—yourself
- You feel like a “single parent” rather than a partner in your relationship
- You have been verbally attacked or put down in public by your partner
- You have been cheated on, threatened or abused at least once in your relationship
How can you tell whether your relationship is in danger? Be honest and evaluate your relationship. Are you happy in it, just maintaining the status quo, or, worse, just enduring the relationship? Do you ever feel confined, manipulated, neglected or misused? Are things beyond repair? Are you ready to move on in search of better opportunities?
Whatever happens, happens. Just relax. You cannot control everything, so you need to learn to just let go of some things. You may be feeling stuck because you are always in your own head, worrying and obsessing.Even though you are the one who is responsible for making a change in your life, you need to stay open-minded about how to do it. If you’re sticking to a specific way but failing, it may be because it just wasn’t meant for you. Try something else. And accept that things happen in a different order than the one you’ve got planned.