It’s not about what you say: it’s about how (and when) you say it.Someones people may be irritating without realizing it. Whether it’s being on their phone when other people are talking to them, or interrupting people when they speak, there are some habits that are annoying or perceived as annoying by certain people that may seem harmless to others. But according to experts, there are easy ways to fix it.Often times, our judgement will come out in the form of a backhanded compliment or tough love advice. These people literally don’t know they are being irritating to others.
Some people have a tendency to talk too much while others talk too little. Some talk too softly, while others can be very loud. In most cases, this is just how people are and how they’ve learned to communicate. Because of that, they may not realize their way of talking can be turning people off. That’s why being receptive to feedback from others is super important.
Pessimism is a self-fulfilling prophecy: if you expect to be disliked when meeting people, research shows you will probably project cold negativity and prove yourself right. Social optimism, on the other hand, works the same way: people who expect other people to like them will enter into conversation more positively and, often, leave the other person feeling the same way.
This doesn’t mean you need to suppress your emotions all day, but consider that happiness and sadness are as contagious as a virus; if you wouldn’t greet a friend by sneezing in her face, don’t greet her with a sour mentality either.
Here are things you should never say over text.
- Making Everything About Them
- Interrupting Others
- Trying Too Hard To Relate
- Insisting On Being Right All The Time
- Finding Their Phone Way More Interesting Than Anything Going On IRL
- Not Being Completely Present
- Forgetting To Return Things
- Being Completely Unaware Of Other People’s Reactions
- Trying To Flaunt Their Knowledge To Anyone And Everyone
- Being Judgmental
- Trying Too Hard To Be Friends With Everyone
- Being Late All The Time
- Talking In A Way That Makes People Feel Uncomfortable
- Pen Tapping, Clicking, And Other Nervous Habits
- Invading People’s Personal Space
- You dominate the conversation
- You correct people too often
- You say “you” instead of “we”
- You end statements like questions
- You talk too fast
Some people will go above and beyond to be liked by everyone. There’s nothing wrong with wanting be liked, however, you can never please everyone you meet, and not everyone who you come into contact will like you.If this is the case and an individual feels like the people they socialize with are becoming annoyed or irritated, it may be in their best interest to adjust a little bit.
Remember that it’s impossible to be friends with every single person in the world. If they adjust their thinking a but and focus their energy on the people they’re actually good friends with, Dr. Raichbach says it’s easier to maintan happpier and healthier relationships.
We’re not trying to make you paranoid — absolutely everyone has the capacity to be interesting. But if being boring is a persistent fear of yours, you might want to check out the tips below.Read on for the social behaviours to avoid at all costs and you’ll be on your way to life-of-the-party status.
- Boring people have unbalanced conversations
- Boring people can’t tell if others are engaged in the conversation
- Boring people can’t make others laugh
- Boring people never have anything to say in conversations
- Boring people always do the same thing
- Boring people don’t know how to tell a good story
- Boring people don’t have anything new to add
- Boring people can’t see things from other people’s perspectives
- Boring people don’t include anybody in the conversation
- Boring people have poor improv skills
- Boring people speak in monotone
- Boring people are constantly negative
- Boring people repeat themselves
- Boring people are always bored
Some people unconsciously do things when they’re nervous like tap their pen, play with their hair, or bouncing their leg when they sit.Being aware of nervous habits, whatever it may be, is the first step to overcoming this issue.The ability to place oneself in another person’s shoes makes someone interesting to talk to
Everyone has their fair share of habits they may not realize irritate other people. You shouldn’t have to change the very core of who you are just to please other people. But if we can all be aware and mindful of how others feel and react to what we say or do, everyone can feel more comfortable being around each other.
