Anger is related to the fight only

Anger is the Disease of Soul

Anger is a natural feeling experienced by every person. Although it is natural, anger can have serious consequences for us as well as the people around us. Although situations that cause anger are not always avoidable, anger can and should be controlled. A person who becomes angry may become irrational and say or do something regretful. When anger becomes a habit without efforts to control it, a person will face great difficulty in building quality interpersonal relationships. Allah says:

وَإِمَّا يَنزَغَنَّكَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ نَزْغٌ فَاسْتَعِذْ بِاللَّهِ إِنَّهُ سَمِيعٌ عَلِيمٌ

“If an evil suggestion comes to you from Satan, then seek refuge in Allah. Verily, He is Hearing and Knowing.” (Surah al-A’raf 7:200)

Anger is the temptation of Shaytaan and also a root of all evils; it can weaken the person’s faith. Anger is a natural feeling experienced by every person caused due to displeasure and annoyance. Despite the fact it is natural, anger can have serious consequences for us as well as the people around us. Anger is a natural emotion that a person may express in a manner that could result in violence and destructive acts. Allah says:

الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

“Those who spend in [the] ease and (in) the hardship and those who restrain the anger and those who pardon [from] the people – and Allah loves the good-doers.” (Surah Al-Imran 3:134)

Allah loves those who control their anger and behave in well manners with other people. We all should try to avoid anger as it is the disease of the soul and our beloved Prophet Muhammad (SAW) also disliked this act. We are living in a world that is full of pressures makes us suffer from anger every time and can easily enrage negative emotions around us. We need to find at least solutions to reduce our negative emotions because they can easily provoke anger. Allah says:

إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ لَكُمْ عَدُوٌّ فَاتَّخِذُوهُ عَدُوًّا إِنَّمَا يَدْعُو حِزْبَهُ لِيَكُونُوا مِنْ أَصْحَابِ السَّعِيرِ

“Indeed, the Shaitaan (is) to you an enemy, so take him (as) an enemy. Only he invites his party that they may be among (the) companions (of) the Blaze.” (Surah Fatir 35:6)

Anger is considered an illness in Islam. It’s a negative thing that should be kept away from a Muslim. Anger may cause harm, disaster, and even war. The Prophet (SAW) himself had his anger management so that his anger will not easily explode. When a person becomes angry, there is a high tendency for them to lose control and say things they will regret forever.

Ways how to avoid getting angry, and strategies for controlling your anger:

  1. Anger never helps you cope with the stress and tension
  2. Anger is never embedded in our primitive need to live
  3. Anger never strongly motivates you to do positive
  4. Anger is not related to a deep need for control
  5. Anger is never designed to promote survival 
  6. Anger never evolved to keep us safe
  7. Anger never sharpens our focus
  8. Anger holds a grudge for revenge
  9. Anger never fulfil our needs destiny
  10. Anger never protect us against aggression
  11. Anger is often experienced faced with insults
  12. Anger often  disrespect, injustice, or exploitation
  13. Anger never activate and pushes us to fight back
  14. Anger never give us the strength and help us overcome
  15. Anger never guards us when someone wants to hurt us
  16. Anger never act quickly and forcefully to protect ourselves

Anger is like poison. Within minutes it can destroy everything a man has built- marriages, brotherhood, and friendship. It can even lead to bloodshed. One should be conscious of these effects and be very careful with one’s choices when in a state of anger. Allah has promised a great reward for the righteous (mutation) who keep away from the causes of anger and struggle within themselves to control it, as it is one of the most effective ways of extinguishing the flames of anger. Allah says:

وَجَزَٰٓؤُا۟ سَيِّئَةٍ سَيِّئَةٌ مِّثْلُهَا ۖ فَمَنْ عَفَا وَأَصْلَحَ فَأَجْرُهُۥ عَلَى ٱللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّهُۥ لَا يُحِبُّ ٱلظَّٰلِمِينَ

“But [remember that an attempt at] requiting evil may, too, become an evil: hence, whoever pardons [his foe] and makes peace, his reward rests with God – for, verily, He does not love evildoers. “(Surah Ash Sura  42:40)

On a final note, keep in mind that anger and reacting to anger does not make you a strong man. The hadith narrates that the Prophet (PBUH) said: “A strong man is not the one who throws people down, a strong man is the one who withholds himself from anger”.Du’a is the most important and powerful tool of a Muslim. Therefore, we must always pray against evils and for God to protect us against bad behaviour of any form.

Here are some ways to avoid getting angry:

  • Read about how the Prophet (SAW) always hold his anger and learn from him, Do what he did to avoid getting angry
  • Make yourself relax. Take a deep breath, wudu’, and sit down until the anger fades away
  • Anger can destroy your relationship with other people, including your husband or wife
  • Ask for peace from Allah so that you won’t be getting angry easily
  • Allah will elevate the status of Muslims who can hold their anger
  • Always remember that the effect of anger is not good
  • Understand the cause of anger so you can avoid it
  • Fill your mind with positive thoughts
  • Make dua to Allah to give you a calm heart to react to everything
  • People get angry for a reason, and for those who are smart enough
  • Allah owned the universe and its content. You have no power to get angry
  • It is said by the Prophet, “The strongest man is the one who, when he gets angry and his face reddens and his hackles rise, can defeat his anger.”

Anger can destroy relationships, health, properties, and livelihood. This is because uncontrolled anger is from the Shaytan and he uses it to wreck lives. We must, therefore, be very conscious of the plot of the devil, and control our anger. There is a better reward for this in this world, and in the hereafter, In sha Allah. So those are the ways how to avoid getting angry in Islam. Let us all follow the Sunnah of the Prophet so that we can be wise Muslims.

“If one of you got angry while standing then sits down, or if sitting down then lay down. If anger does not go away then do Wudu”. (Abu Dawood)

As we all know anger is like poison it can destroy everything a man has built-in minutes like marriages, brotherhood, and friendship. Before getting angry one should remember the effects of anger. One should be aware of these effects and be very careful with one’s choices when in a state of anger. We should try and avoid the angered person from thoughts that continue to anger them.

Anger is an emotion that can be very powerful and all-consuming:

  1. Anger is a temptation of Shaytaan and deception of shaytan
  2. Anger is a strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure
  3. A violent passion excited by real or supposed injury
  4. Anger becomes a brute beast devoid of any sense
  5. Anger is a rage fierce, displeasure, passion
  6. Anger is a rare physical pain, inflammation
  7. Anger snatches away the wisdom of man
  8. Anger is the root of all evils
  9. Anger is a destructive fire
  10. Anger is a rage excited by a sense of wrong
  11. Anger is a secret weapon of man towards evils
  12. Anger is mad, hot-tempered, choleric, inflamed
  13. Anger’s result’s in the destruction of many noble qualities
  14. Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, and hostility
  15. Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person Iman (FAITH)
  16. Anger is a spark of fire that is always bursting. Anger is burning coal

It is better to forgive others who hurt, offend, or harm us, rather than be in anger. Forgiving is miraculous. While someone is in a state of anger he/she should seek refuge from Allah.  Anger is not the matter of power as stated in hadith:

“The strong man is not the one who can wrestle, but it is the one who can control himself when he is angry.”(Bukhari)

Those who are willing to forgive others will get a reward from Allah. It is mentioned in the Holy Quran. One should be calm and silent when getting angry it is the best solution to avoid anger. It is extremely important to stay calm and be quiet because someone can lose control and can say those things which he/she regret later. Think about what you are about to do or say in anger.

أَفَمَنِ اتَّبَعَ رِضْوَانَ اللَّهِ كَمَن بَاءَ بِسَخَطٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ وَمَأْوَاهُ جَهَنَّمُ وَبِئْسَ الْمَصِيرُ

“Is the man who follows the good pleasure of Allah Like the man who draws on himself the wrath of Allah, and whose abode is in Hell?- A woeful refuge! “ (Surah Al-Imran, 3:162)

Anger can destroy one’s relationships, health, and sustenance. These destructions are caused because uncontrolled anger is from the Shaytaan and he uses it to wreck lives. Therefore we should be aware of the tricks of the devil, and control our anger. Allah Almighty promised a greater reward for in this world and in the hereafter for controlling anger. May Allah Almighty give us the strength to follow the right path and practice Islam Ameen!