Marriage is considered a religious duty in Islam and is enjoined upon all believers who can afford it. It provides a moral safeguard and legal means to develop a relationship with the opposite sex and to extend the family. Marriage is a religious duty and is consequently a moral safeguard as well as a social necessity. Islam urges us to control and regulate our desires, whatever they may be so that we remain dignified and not become like animals. Allah says:
وَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تُقْسِطُوا فِي الْيَتَامَىٰ فَانكِحُوا مَا طَابَ لَكُم مِّنَ النِّسَاءِ مَثْنَىٰ وَثُلَاثَ وَرُبَاعَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ أَلَّا تَعْدِلُوا فَوَاحِدَةً أَوْ مَا مَلَكَتْ أَيْمَانُكُمْ ذَٰلِكَ أَدْنَىٰ أَلَّا تَعُولُوا
“And if you fear that not you will be able to do with the orphans, then marry what seems suitable to you from the women two, or three, or four. But if you fear that not you can do justice then (marry) one or what possesses your right hand. That (is) more appropriate that you (may) not oppress.” (Surah an-Nisa 4:3)
We rarely found someone who was divorced, then remarry. But, in this wonderful society, it’s happening. Every type of separation is hard, including a divorce. It is not only hard for the wife who’s been divorced, but also for the man who said the words of divorce. The words said with Talaq, and there are some types of Talaq in Islam you must concern about. Allah says:
فَإِن طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا تَحِلُّ لَهُ مِن بَعْدُ حَتَّىٰ تَنكِحَ زَوْجًا غَيْرَهُ فَإِن طَلَّقَهَا فَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْهِمَا أَن يَتَرَاجَعَا إِن ظَنَّا أَن يُقِيمَا حُدُودَ اللَّهِ وَتِلْكَ حُدُودُ اللَّهِ يُبَيِّنُهَا لِقَوْمٍ يَعْلَمُونَ
“Then if he divorces her, then (she is) not lawful for him from after (that) until she marries a spouse other than him. Then if he divorces her then no sin on them if they return to each other if they believe that they (will be able to) keep (the) limits. (of) Allah. And these (are the) limits. (of) Allah. He makes them clear to people who know.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:230)
Widows are encouraged to remarry for their protection and security in life. Even though the remarry is lawful in Islam, there is a time limit for it. There are some ways to divorce your wife in Islam you must follow. If the husband said the words of divorce once so that you still can remarry him under the law. That is still happening while the words of divorce are said twice.
Here are some reasons why Islam so much emphasized Marriage:
- Marriage makes an incomplete human being a complete
- Marriage is a source to experience love and happiness
- Marriage for giving factors between husband and wife
- Marriage increases sustenance, love, respect, caring
- Marriage guarantees physical and spiritual chastity
- Marriage has a kind of interest in the fate of others
- Marriage provides tranquillity, peace, and security
- Marriage is one of the most liked Sunnah in Islam
- Marriage is a sacred bond between two persons
- Marriage is one of the commandments of Allah
- Marriage is protection against a sinful life
- Marriage is one of the classes of Allah
- Marriage is a religious command
- Marriage is a bond of love
- Marriage extend human life
- Marriage has righteous offspring
- Marriage cherishing every moment
- Marriage away from the act of adultery
- Marriage treating the wife with respect
- Marriage being thankful for little things
- Marriage a good woman for a good man
- Marriage is necessary for making a family
- Marriage Ignoring the flaws of your spouse
- Marriage finding tranquillity from the spouse
- Marriage know each other and help each other
- Marriage loving the spouse for the sake of Allah
- Marriage caring about the feelings of the spouse
- Marriage means you are obeying the Prophet (SAW)
- Marriage must commitment, completion, and maturity
- Marriage never lose focus on each other’s primary needs
Islam taught us to live happily with our family, your spouse, friend, or neighbourhood. Even though a divorce is lawful in Islam, complementing that thing is hard to divine. Instead, Allah does not love this kind of separation thing between a married couple. So, there is a remarry’s law in Islam following the rules of the terms of marriage in Islam. Allah says:
وَلَن تَسْتَطِيعُوا أَن تَعْدِلُوا بَيْنَ النِّسَاءِ وَلَوْ حَرَصْتُمْ فَلَا تَمِيلُوا كُلَّ الْمَيْلِ فَتَذَرُوهَا كَالْمُعَلَّقَةِ وَإِن تُصْلِحُوا وَتَتَّقُوا فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ كَانَ غَفُورًا رَّحِيمًا
“And never will you be able to deal justly between [the] women even if you desired, but (do) not incline (with) all the inclination and leave her (the other) like the suspended one. And if you reconcile and consciously revere (Allah) then indeed, Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.” (Surah an-Nisa 4:129)
The widow like the divorced can remarry according to Islamic teachings guided by the holy prophet PBUH. A widow is, after all, a human being if she accidentally meets a mishap in her life, no one has the right to deprive her on this behalf. The good and bad fortune is in the power of Allah Almighty. She can remarry and there is no social and religious barrier on her in Islamic society. Islam considers it a good and awesome act. Allah says:
يَا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ إِنَّا خَلَقْنَاكُم مِّن ذَكَرٍ وَأُنثَىٰ وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا
“O mankind, verily, We have created you from male and female and made you peoples and tribes that you may know one another.” (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:13)
Islam promotes love, care, and respect in the Muslim society where wives and husbands live happily with their children and families. If a husband divorces his wife by divorcing one or two then the husband has the right to reconcile with his wife, as long as it is still iddah, both the wife of Ridha and not right.
Allah Almighty says in the Holy Quran:
- “Your wives are a garment for you, and you are a garment for them.” (Quran 2:187)
- “and they have taken a strong pledge (Mithaqun Ghalithun) from you?” (Quran 4:21)
- “And of all things, We created two mates; perhaps you will remember.” (Quran, 51:49)
- “Live with them in kindness; even if you dislike them, perhaps you dislike something in which Allah has placed much good.” (Quran, 4:19)
- “Exalted is He who created all pairs – from what the earth grows and from themselves and from that which they do not know.” (Quran, 36:36)
- “And indeed We sent Messengers before you (O Muhammad SAW), and made for them wives and offspring.” (Ar-Rad 13:38).
- “Marry those among you who are single and (marry) your slaves, male and female, that are righteous” (Quran 24:32)
- “We indeed sent messengers before you (O Muhammad), and We assigned them wives and children” (Quran 13:38)
- “Allah created male and female from a single soul so that man might live with her in serenity.” (Quran, 7:189)
- “Then marry (other) women of your choice, two or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) what your right hands possess.”(An-Nisa 4:3)
- “And Allah has made for you your mates of your nature, and made for you, out of them, sons and daughters and grandchildren, and provided for you sustenance of the best.” (Quran 16:72)
- “And those who guard their chastity (i.e. private parts, from illegal sexual acts).” (Al-Muminun 23:5)
There is lawful to do when you remarry your ex-husband after the three words of divorce but with a certain condition. If after twice divorce the couple reconciliation then remarry, but then they divorce again so there must be something on their relationship. Besides, there is a law of women asks divorce in Islam if the women initiate the divorce. Allah says:
سُبْحَانَ الَّذِي خَلَقَ الْأَزْوَاجَ كُلَّهَا مِمَّا تُنبِتُ الْأَرْضُ وَمِنْ أَنفُسِهِمْ وَمِمَّا لَا يَعْلَمُونَ
“Exalted is He who created all pairs – from what the earth grows and from themselves and from that which they do not know.” (Surah Ya-Seen 36:36)
Islam gives women enough rights as a religion, it is then up to us, as men, to further their rights and help them attain the level of equality they deserve – because it is they who bear much trouble to make our lives happier and more comfortable.
