Habit to Improve Your Behavior

Changing your environment is the easiest and most powerful way to change your behavior. Developing and improving oneself is a constant process through the life of an individual. This is normally accomplished by developing and inculcating certain behaviors in one’s personality. The more you practice these behaviors, the more consistent you become in adopting them and making them a permanent part of your life. Allah says:

“And maybe that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.” (Al-Baqarah: 216)

Our behavior plays a big part in our everyday lives and can affect how our life may turn out in the future. If you decide to live with negative behavior, always expecting the worst and never enjoying what you already have in your life, you’ll find that your inner choices will reflect on the outside. We live and act according to the injunctions of the Quran. Allah says:

“Falsehood cannot come to it from before it or behind it (it is) sent down by the All-Wise, Worthy of all praise.” (Fussilat: 42)

Doing good and having the right belief go hand in hand in Islam. In fact, doing good in practice is proof of having the right belief in the heart. This is why the Holy Quran speaks of true Muslims very often as “those who believe and do good deeds”. Both the Quran and the Holy Prophet have told Muslims that the best among them is that person who shows the best behavior towards other people.

The Most Effective Way To Change Your Behavior And Improve Your Life
  1. Know your motivations, and be sure they’re strong
  2. Identify a positive habit you’re going to do instead
  3. Be nice to people regardless of their social status 
  4. Seek out those who share your positive behavior
  5. Don’t underestimate the power of support
  6. Have strategies to defeat the urge
  7. Say “thank you” more frequently
  8. Don’t compare yourself to others
  9. Renew your commitment often
  10. Write down all your obstacles
  11. Prepare for the sabotagers
  12. Become aware of self-talk
  13. Treat all creations kindly
  14. Always act with a purpose
  15. Take action and then let it go
  16. Live in the light of the Quran
  17. Seek feedback about yourself
  18. Change how you set your goals
  19. Use setbacks to improve your skills
  20. Take action without expecting results
  21. If you fail, figure out what went wrong
  22. Be the person who speaks up for others
  23. Aimless activity wastes time and energy
  24. Stretch yourself past your limits every day
  25. Be the Muslim who comes to the aid of a stranger

A behavior comes down to choice, you can choose whether to have a good or a bad attitude and whether external things can affect it or not. With this in mind, we come up with a few ways to help improve your behavior when you are struggling to turn a bad day into a good one.

How to Change Your Behavior for Good

Leaving all bad and unwanted habits: The aim of leaving all bad and unwanted habits and trying to accomplish and implement all the good habits and continuing them for the rest of our lives.

Trying to develop a good habit: The key is to keep doing a good deed and repeating the behavior each and every day good habits, once established are just as hard to break as are bad habits.

Motivation and Reminders: Think about the reasons why you want to form a habit. Once you weigh the pros and cons, you will be automatically motivated to repeat the action.

Ask Allah for Help: Last but not least, the most important and significant practice a Muslim can do is to ask Allah for His Guidance and Help to let you achieve what you have set out for.

Changing your own behavior: Make sure the behaviors you want to change are specific, measurable, and attainable. Give yourself some freedom in the goals you set.

Make a realistic plan: Set yourself up for success by making sure you have practical ways to reach your goals. Develop practical ways to deal with any obstacles that come up.

Avoid making too many changes at once. Focusing on too many behavioral changes at the same time may be tempting, but it can be overwhelming.

Allah Almighty says in The Holy Quran:

  • “Mankind is a single nation.” (Quran 2:213)
  • “Allah loves those who are patient.” (Quran 3:145)
  • “Bear patiently what they (abusers) say.” (Quran 20:130)
  • “Serve Allah, being sincere to Him in obedience.” (Quran 39:2)
  • “Whenever they (true believers) are angry they forgive.” (Quran 42:37)
  • “Do good to others, surely Allah loves those who do good to others.” (Quran 2:195)
  • “Be good to the neighbor belonging to your people and the alien neighbor.” (Quran 4:36)
  • “O you who believe, keep your duty to Allah, and be with the truthful people.” (Quran 9:119)
  • “Do not turn your face away from people in contempt, nor go about in the land exultingly.” (Quran 31:18)

Our culture often encourages us to fixate on the negative. But when we are trying to implement lasting change, we have a greater chance of succeeding if we focus on solutions, not problems. Of course, we need to initially understand the root of the problem but obsessing over that isn’t helpful. Allah says:

“And when you are greeted with a greeting, greet (in return) with one better than it or (at least) return it (in a like manner). Indeed, Allah is ever, over all things, an Accountant.” (Surah An-Nisa, verse 86)

Think about it this way: if we keep our attention on what’s wrong or on our failures, those thoughts will dominate our headspace. On the flip side, if we choose to focus on what’s working, those thoughts become more prevalent. Allah says:

“Why, when you heard it, did not the believing men and believing women think good of one another and say, ‘This is an obvious falsehood’?” (Surah An-Nur, verse 12)

When we dream of being the ‘perfect’ Muslim, we may dream of being memorizers of the Qur’an. We may wish that we have millions of dollars to end world hunger or to buy our loved ones the most fabulous gifts. Sometimes though, what takes us closer to being this ‘perfect’ Muslim is improving on our behavior.

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