Anger is a natural feeling experienced by every person. Anger is a destructive emotion, as a fire which destroys our well-being, consumes our good actions, repels our friends and dear ones, frightens our children and forces the angels to report bad actions for the Heavenly Records. The evil kind of anger can be overcome by understanding and following the respective teachings of Islam. Remember that the real strength of a man lies in controlling his wrath or anger. Allah says:
وَلَمَّا سَكَتَ عَن مُّوسَى الْغَضَبُ أَخَذَ الْأَلْوَاحَ وَفِي نُسْخَتِهَا هُدًى وَرَحْمَةٌ لِّلَّذِينَ هُمْ لِرَبِّهِمْ يَرْهَبُونَ
“And when was calmed from Musa the anger, he took (up) the tablets and in their inscription (was) guidance and mercy for those who [they] (are) fearful of their Lord.” (Surah Al-Araf, 7:154)
Anger is a psychological state that results from inner agitation and desire for revenge. And when this agitation becomes more violent, it intensifies the fire of anger. A violent commotion engulfs one’s brain on account of which the mind and the intellect lose control and become powerless. At that time, the inner state of a person resembles a cave where the fire has broken out, filling it with flames and suffocating clouds of smoke that leap out of its mouth with intense heat and a fiery howl. Allah says:
الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ
“Those who spend in [the] ease and (in) the hardship and those who restrain the anger and those who pardon [from] the people – and Allah loves the good-doers.” (Surah Al-Imran 3:134)
The similitude of anger in this world is the fire of Divine Wrath in the hereafter. In the same way that anger emanates from the heart, perhaps the spiritual reality of this anger is the fire of Divine Wrath that also emanates from the inner depths of the heart and spread over the external being, and whose tormenting flames emerge from external organs such as the eyes, the ears, and the tongue.
Here is some powerful steps process to know and get rid of unwanted anger:
- Anger can become a problem and affects a person’s daily life
- Anger is a temptation of Shaytaan and deception of shaytan
- Anger is a strong feeling caused by extreme displeasure
- Anger can sometimes feel intense and overwhelming
- A violent passion excited by real or supposed injury
- Anger becomes a brute beast devoid of any sense
- Anger is a spark of fire that is always bursting
- Anger is a rage excited by a sense of wrong
- Anger is a rare physical pain, inflammation
- Anger snatches away the wisdom of man
- Anger is the root of all evils
- Anger is burning coal
- Anger is a destructive fire
- Anger ups your stroke risk
- Anger harms and hurts himself and others
- Anger is a rage fierce, displeasure, passion
- Anger cause of evil and aggressive actions
- Anger like fear is a psychological condition
- Anger problems can make your anxiety worse
- Anger is a secret weapon of man towards evils
- Anger is mad, hot-tempered, choleric, inflamed
- Anger can cause headaches, migraines and more
- Anger’s result’s in the destruction of many noble qualities
- Anger is a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, and hostility
- Anger is a very bad condition that weakens the person Iman (FAITH)
Anger is one of several coarse qualities of the soul or heart, which have to be treated by Islam’s spiritual methods. To treat the (spiritual) disease you have to know its causes. Anger is like poison. Within minutes it can destroy everything a man has built- marriages, brotherhood, and friendship. It can even lead to bloodshed. One should be conscious of these effects and be very careful with one’s choices when in a state of anger.
Anger put you at risk for hypertension and cardiovascular issues:
Understanding anger: Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, neither good nor bad. Like any emotion, it conveys a message, telling you that a situation is upsetting, unjust, or threatening.
Anger can shorten your life: Is it true that happy people live longer? “Stress is very tightly linked to general health. If you’re stressed and angry, you’ll shorten your lifespan.
The reality of Anger: Anger is a destructive emotion, like a fire which destroys our well-being. An angry person physically harms someone or seeks revenge.
Effects and Consequences of Anger: Anger may lead one to use abusive language against anyone. Anger that becomes a permanent part of one’s nature, it is more catastrophic.
The Attribute of Controlling Anger: The anger of a true believer is for the sake of God. In the state of anger, he keeps in mind his duties, rights of creatures and never oppresses anyone.
When Anger is Provoked: One of the practical remedies of anger when it is provoked is to restrain it and calm it down in the earlier phase when one’s intellect is still in control.
Advice to Cure Anger: A person with the habit of often getting angry should know that anger is the faculty that is granted by God Almighty for the sake of the preservation, continuity and survival of human species and for the discipline and order of the family system, protection of human rights and safeguarding Divine laws.
Here are five steps you can take to manage your anger healthily:
- Think about the negative act and Know your ‘angry signs’
- Think about and explore what’s really behind your anger
- Think about the things that regularly trigger your anger
- Taking a break, you could walk away from a situation
- Think about the blamed for something you didn’t do
- Think about how your body feels when you’re angry
- Try to change the things that make you angry
- Be aware of your anger warning signs
- Find healthier ways to express your anger
- Focus on the counting to let your rational mind
- Connecting with nature can help to calm down the mind and body
- If you’re tense, take some long deep breaths and focus on your breathing
- Recognise that you are starting to get angry, you’re better able to try and stop
- Manage conflict in your life, strengthen your relationships, and lead a satisfying life
Anger becomes a problem when it begins to impact a person’s daily life and causes them to react in a way that might hurt themselves or those around them. Allah loves those who control their anger and behave in well manners with other people. We all should try to avoid anger as it is the disease of the soul. We need to find at least solutions to reduce our negative emotion because they can easily provoke anger.
Allah Almighty says in The Holy Quran:
- “So He made their deeds of no effect.” (Muhammad, 28)
- “those whose (portion) is not wrath, and who go not astray.” (Al-Fatiha, 7)
- “The way of those on whom Thou hast bestowed Thy Grace.” (Al-Fatiha, 6)
- “There is no god but thou: glory to thee: I was indeed wrong!” (Al-Anbiya, 87)
- “The Wrath of Allah is on them: He has cursed them and got Hell ready for them: and evil is it for a destination.” (Al-Fath, 6)
- “Those who avoid the greater crimes and shameful deeds, and, when they are angry even then forgive.” (Ash-Shura, 37)
- “They are neither of you nor of them, and they swear to falsehood knowingly.” (Al-Mujadala, 14)
The behaviour of a courageous person is based on wisdom and serenity of soul. He gets angry on proper occasion and is patient and restrained. His anger is to the proper extent and if he takes revenge, it is with reason and discretion. He knows well as to whom he should forgive and what to overlook and ignore. Allah says:
إِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ لَكُمْ عَدُوٌّ فَاتَّخِذُوهُ عَدُوًّا إِنَّمَا يَدْعُو حِزْبَهُ لِيَكُونُوا مِنْ أَصْحَابِ السَّعِيرِ
“Indeed, the Shaitaan (is) to you an enemy, so take him (as) an enemy. Only he invites his party that they may be among (the) companions (of) the Blaze.” (Surah Fatir 35:6)
When someone is angry, mad, and reaches a state of having wrath against any person, he should make a special Du’a. In doing so he will cool down. A faithful should have a strong will not become angry over everything but only when he sees evil deeds or corruption, which he should try to reform. Allah says:
وَإِنِّي كُلَّمَا دَعَوْتُهُمْ لِتَغْفِرَ لَهُمْ جَعَلُوا أَصَابِعَهُمْ فِي آذَانِهِمْ وَاسْتَغْشَوْا ثِيَابَهُمْ وَأَصَرُّوا وَاسْتَكْبَرُوا اسْتِكْبَارًا
“And indeed, I every time, I invited them that You may forgive them, they put their fingers in their ears and covered themselves (with) their garments and persisted and were arrogant (with) pride.” (Surah Nuh 71:7)
A wise person thinks carefully of the evil consequences of anger and the benefits of restraint, thus making it incumbent upon himself to stamp out this fire from his heart with every possible effort. He clears from his heart the love of wealth, honour and the like that provoke his anger. A believer is one who forgives and tolerates people’s mistakes because Allah loves those who forgive others and will reward them on the Day of Resurrection.