Mothers in Islam

Kindness in Islam

God’s kind words have a major impact on our lives. They comfort us, encourage us, inspire us, guide us, etc. Kind words were spoken at the right time to affect people. They give people hope. The Prophet Muhammad taught love, kindness, and compassion to his people. Kindness, an extensive term that has no bounds or limits to be expressed. It lies deep in our hearts, but often we forget to use it at an appropriate time. Kindness reflects because of being considerate and generous towards others. Allah says:

وَلَا تُؤْتُوا السُّفَهَاءَ أَمْوَالَكُمُ الَّتِي جَعَلَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ قِيَامًا وَارْزُقُوهُمْ فِيهَا وَاكْسُوهُمْ وَقُولُوا لَهُمْ قَوْلًا مَّعْرُوفًا

“And (do) not give the foolish your wealth which Allah made for you a means of support (but) provide (for) them with it and clothe them and speak to them words (of) kindness.” (Surah An-Nisa` 4:5)

Islam has insisted to render services for orphans. They are not in a position to make their living as they have lost their guardians. That’s why Allah has commanded to take care of their needs and to treat them with kindness. Love your enemies, do good, and lend, hoping for nothing in return; and your reward will be great. Kindness doesn’t have to wait for someone to ask. Kindness moves on its own. Allah says:

وَاقْصِدْ فِي مَشْيِكَ وَاغْضُضْ مِن صَوْتِكَ إِنَّ أَنكَرَ الْأَصْوَاتِ لَصَوْتُ الْحَمِيرِ

“And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys.” (Surah Luqman 31:19)

All in all, the most important thing is our soul. If we haven’t properly maintained our soul, then there may be no way to paradise. If we have kept it well maintained, then we will be the successful one in this world and the hereafter. So it is important to be kind to our souls by purifying it constantly with dhikr, istighfar and salah.

These ideas are just some quick things we can do to practice this essential part of our faith:

  1. Kindness makes a way out of our concerns and a refuge
  2. Kindness helps individuals reward here and hereafter
  3. Kindness helps individuals attain rewards from Allah 
  4. Kindness emphasize on this great type of manner
  5. Kindness is one of the necessities of our society
  6. Kindness saved from destruction and calamities
  7. Kindness includes being truthful towards Allah
  8. Kindness is the excellence of human attitude
  9. Kindness is a virtue of human behaviour
  10. Kindness brings glorious benefits
  11. Kindness makes a positive Dua
  12. Kindness practice what you preach
  13. Kindness stop backbiting in its tracks 
  14. Kindness urge to always speak the truth
  15. Kindness avoid supporting liars in their sin
  16. Kindness realize that lying is bad for everyone
  17. Kindness help make peace between two people
  18. Kindness train yourself with a no-excuse policy
  19. Kindness gives someone wise and gentle advice
  20. Kindness stop yourself from saying something unkind

If you are proud means, you are concerning only about you. It will be more appropriate to define selfishness. You will be distanced from the society and soon you’ll find yourself lonely. So shrug off your pride and walk along with people. Move with them and accompany to help them. If you continue to do this, you will surely attain the attribute of kindness. Allah says:

وَلَا تُصَعِّرْ خَدَّكَ لِلنَّاسِ وَلَا تَمْشِ فِي الْأَرْضِ مَرَحًا إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ

“And turn not your face away from men with pride, nor walk in insolence through the earth. Verily, Allah likes not each arrogant boaster.” (Surah Luqman 31:18)

No matter even if it is a futile thing, be thankful for what they have done. That is the best attitude a man can have. We are closer to them until our works are done and when it is over, we forget about them. Be thankful. If you aren’t thankful, you are not a kind person as you do not know the value of human beings.

Allah Almighty says in the Holy Quran:

  • “Verily, Allah loves those who deal with equity.” (Quran 60:8)
  • “pardon the people – and Allah loves the doers of good.” (Quran 3:134)
  • “When a (courteous) greeting is offered you, meet it with a greeting still more courteous, or (at least) of equal courtesy. Allah takes careful account of all things.” (Quran 4:86)
  • “Worship God and consider no one equal to Him. Be kind to your parents, relatives, orphans, the destitute, your near and distant neighbours, your companions, wayfarers, and your slaves. God does not love the proud and boastful ones,” (Quran 4:36)
  • “Kind speech and forgiveness are better than charity followed by injury. And Allah is Free of need and Forbearing.” (Quran 2:263)

Muslims have an inner love and compassion for people of all faiths, races, and nations, for they consider them as the manifestations of God in this world and treat them with heartfelt respect and love. You reach to help those who are in need. Allah says:

لَقَدْ جَاءَكُمْ رَسُولٌ مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ عَزِيزٌ عَلَيْهِ مَا عَنِتُّمْ حَرِيصٌ عَلَيْكُم بِالْمُؤْمِنِينَ رَءُوفٌ رَّحِيمٌ

There has certainly come to you a Messenger from among yourselves. Grievous to him is what you suffer, for he is concerned over you and to the believers he is kind and merciful.” (Surah At-Tawbah 9:128)

You are trying to make sure whether their needs are met. You actively participate in charity and put your best efforts to help them. If you are so eager in this way, then you are a kind person with tender feelings. Allah says:

الَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ فِي السَّرَّاءِ وَالضَّرَّاءِ وَالْكَاظِمِينَ الْغَيْظَ وَالْعَافِينَ عَنِ النَّاسِ وَاللَّهُ يُحِبُّ الْمُحْسِنِينَ

“Those who spend [in Allah’s Cause – deeds of charity, alms, etc.] in prosperity and adversity, who repress anger, and who pardon men; verily, Allah loves Al-Muhsinun (the good­doers).” (Surah Al Imran 3:134)

Very often though, we feel we don’t have the time for kind gestures, despite our best intentions. Allah is not only the Gracious and the Merciful, but, also wants humanity to be gracious and merciful, to each other. The Quran provides an environment where people can fully enjoy the freedom of thought and freedom of religion and allows people to live by the faith and values they believe in.